Saturday, September 1, 2012

Fifty Shades and He's Just Not That Into You

just some of my favorite lines or quotes i find quotable from the Fifty Shades trilogy and He's Just Not That Into You books i recently read. :) 

From Fifty Shades:
I need him to want me like I want and need him, and deep down I know that’s not possible. -50 shades of grey

I have fallen for someone who’s so emotionally shut down, I will only get hurt – deep down I know this – someone who by his own admission is completely fucked up. -50 shades of grey

It feels so good it should be illegal. -50 shades darker


From He's Just Not That Into You:
When a guy is into you, he let’s you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can’t keep his eyes or hands off of you, and when it’s time to have sex, he’s more than overjoyed to oblige.

If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away.

An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of “ruining the friendship.”

....men are cowards and they would rather wait until the end of time than give you bad news.

But now I don’t want to be “sort of dating” someone. I don’t want to be “kinda hanging out” with someone. I don’t want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so I appear uninvolved. I want to be involved.

100% of guys polled said “a fear of intimacy” has never stopped them from getting into a relationship. One guy even remarked, “Fear of intimacy is an urban myth.” Another guy said, “That’s just what we say to girls when we’re just not that into them.”

“Bad Boys” are bad because they’re troubled, as in having little self-respect, lots of pent-up anger, loads of self-loathing, complete lack of faith in any kind of loving relationship, but yes, really cool clothes and often a great car. Just the kind of guy for you, right,...?

Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.

Sometimes people change their minds, sometimes they meet someone else, sometimes they get sober
(he was drinking excessively), and sometimes he was just a jerk who you’re lucky to be rid of (not that I was judging).

Breakups, I’ve heard, are supposed to be just that. Breaks. Hard, clean breaks. No talking, no seeing, no
touching…keep your hands to yourself. The relationship is over.

There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy exboyfriend.

He’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, there’s no mixed message here.....the only part of that story that’s important to remember is that he didn't want to be with you anymore. And he didn’t have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.

The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The hard part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing.

But I guess the hope is (for me, at least) that when a guy no longer wants to communicate with me, and doesn't have the manners or courage to tell me that to my face, he’s given me all the information I need. It’s the toughest one of all to put into practice.

He doesn’t have to love your CD collection. He doesn’t have to love your shoes. But any good, mature guy better make an attempt to love your friends and family—especially when they’re great.



B. :)

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